These Four habits might be burning you out. If you feel tired all the time, it might be because you’re doing some of these four things . . .

If you’re feeling stressed out these days (who doesn’t?) you might want to think about these four habits that might be burning you out. They are things that you could easily fix if you really want to give these solutions a try.

1. Waiting too long between meals.

In general, you shouldn’t go more than five or six waking hours without eating. When you go longer than that, the body will start craving food . . . and you’re more likely to eat quick, processed carbs. Of course, if you wait till you are starving to eat something than it will be harder to stop eating once you begin. Don’t over snack, but it’s okay to have a small healthy snack that will stave of the hunger beast within.

2. Working at a messy desk.

Working in a cluttered area is distracting for your brain. Which means tasks take longer to complete, and require you to use up more mental focus and energy. Spending your workday in a non-cluttered environment is essential. You just feel better when your workspace is organized and well kept. If you look around the office and see a desk space that is a disaster you know the person using it must be a little disorganized as well. Plus, it’s just a bad look for anyone who wants to advance.

3. Having too many tabs open.

Like a messy desk, having 20-plus tabs open on your computer puts your brain into overdrive and increases the chance that you’ll be distracted. Most of us are guilty of this if we are multi-tasking. The more tabs and windows you have open, the more time it will take you to find the one you are looking for. Take a minute and close out the tabs that you are no longer in need of. Being organized and less stressed is just a mouse click away.

4. Watching emotionally-charged television shows.

Binge watching shows that are emotionally charged can be overstimulating. And it doesn’t matter if it’s positive or negative emotions . . . they both can lead to mental fatigue, difficulty focusing, and poor energy levels. Do you find yourself constantly watching shows that are stressful? Maybe you are a fan of the ever popular “murder mysteries”. Remember, even Keith Morrison of Dateline takes a break once in a while.

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9 Positive Phrases a Harvard Psychologist Says You Should Use Everyday

Make today a great day!

More than ever people need positive phrases to the help them everyday, and luckily an esteemed Harvard Psychologist has determined the nine positive phrases we should use everyday. Let’s face it, times are tough, we have been through a lot in the past few years. We endured a global pandemic that has probably changed our world forever in more ways than we could have ever imagined. Is it true that tough times make tough people? Perhaps, but knowing how to deal with stress is the key.

You are more capable of doing things than you think!

Having confidence in yourself is more vital than ever. Let’s face it, even with the advent of social media and the internet, we are more isolated than ever. Sure, you see your friends and family everyday online, but we see them less often now in the digital world. You are relying on yourself to “coach up” and “build up” the confidence needed to navigate this brave new world.

Stress is not good for you

Forget the axiom that stress builds character, it also builds emotional scars that can last a lifetime. If you find yourself in need of some motivation, these simple nine positive phrases just might give the added lift of confidence that you’re looking for. Of course none of us will get through life without a modicum of stress, and the idea that we can all lead stress free lives is fantasy.

The good doctor is in

Dr. Cortney S. Warren, PhD, is a board-certified psychologist and author of “Letting Go of Your Ex.” She specializes in marriages, love addiction and breakups, and received her clinical training at Harvard Medical School. She has written nearly 50 peer-reviewed journal articles and delivered more than 75 presentations on the psychology of relationships. Follow her on Twitter @DrCortneyWarren.

Here are the 9 Positive Phrases a Harvard Psychologist Says You Should Use Everyday

9. I'm Letting This Go

The Dr says, “developing resilience requires getting to a place where you can see difficult life circumstances for what they are, and actively choosing to let them go.” When you can let the little and sometime big things go, you are on your way to a better you!
8. It Is What It Is

“The key to resilience is not denying reality or seeking out a reason that makes us feel better about why something happened.” Like football coaches preach, you are what your record says you are.
7. I Still Have Things To Be Grateful For

“We are hardwired to notice threats to our well-being but people who are resilient find a way to turn towards the positive even in times of difficulty.” As your grandmother might have said, “count your blessings.”
6. I Need Some Time
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“A key component of resilience is emotional flexibility, or the ability to regulate your feelings, and reduce their intensity in a given situation.” Sometimes you need to step back and take stock of things, you might have a better perspective with just a little more time.
5. What Can I Learn From This?
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“Openness to experiences and ability to shift your perspective. Ask, why did this happen to me too what can I take from this to help me grow? Can help you better navigate through life‘s inevitable ups and downs.” Life’s learning lessons continue long after you finish school.
4. This, Too Shall Pass

“For resilient people believe that setbacks and challenges can feel horrible in the moment, but that nothing in life is permanent. It doesn’t mean that the pain will go away entirely, but it does mean that we can work to make them less traumatic over time.”
3. Life Is Hard
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“Resilience is associated with a basic acceptance that life isn’t always fair and that we all experience emotional hardships excepting this truth helps people to not take things personally.” Nobody ever said life is easy, it can be hard a lot of the time, so when you accept that it’s natural to have struggles, the more you will be able to face those hardships.
2. I'm Not Going To Let Myself Be A Victim

“Being resilient means that when you experience the pain of this treatment you shift your perspective from I’m a victim and powerless to help myself to. How can I grow from this?
1. I Can Get Through This

“Emotional resilience is associated with grit and mental toughness. There is an understanding that we have to be strong and overcome adversity without letting it break us.” This is a powerful affirmation that you should use whenever you’re feeling up against a hard time, remind yourself that yes, I can get through this, than you give yourself a fighting chance.