Happy National Compliment Day! These are the BEST Compliments You Can Give Someone!
It’s always nice to get a compliment. So why not give one on National Compliment Day?
Here’s your chance.
Listen, there’s nothing like someone saying something nice about you. And there’s nothing like making someone’s day by saying something nice to them.
And an unsolicited compliment? THE BEST.
But the kind of compliment you give makes a difference. I mean, saying “You look nice today” is OK. But making it personal?
So much better, according to the experts.
Take it from psychotherapist Lindsay Liben, LCSW, who shared her compliment acumen with Oprah.com:
“Skin-deep compliments may sometimes feel shallow, but in the right context, they can be empowering and appreciated.” She recommends making a simple compliment resonate even more by actually connecting it to a more emotional thought, like instead of saying, “I love your dress!” adding something like, “Your sunny yellow dress is beautiful and seeing it brightened my morning!”
And here’s the thing, compliments benefit the giver and the receiver.
Liben said research shows that giving gratitude-based compliments, in particular, correlates with greater levels of optimism, satisfaction and happiness. As relationship expert and coach Rachel DeAlto puts it, “Compliments create positive energy! And like gifts, giving them can benefit the giver as well as the recipient.”
So how do you build a sincere, thoughtful compliment, that will strengthen your relationships, boost happiness and gratitude, and definitely bring a smile to someone’s face?
A few tips:
Link your compliment to something you genuinely feel. Then, think about why you appreciate that quality. Be authentic and specific, not hyperbolic, Liben told Oprah.com
Also, sometimes compliments are centered around one’s physical appearance, body, clothing, hair, makeup, style, according to Lifehack.com.
Which is fine.
“You might compliment a male co-worker on his new suit or a friend on the fragrance of her perfume. And while receiving these physical compliments can give you a quick ego boost, the most resounding and heartfelt compliments tend to focus on your character or the innate inner qualities you possess which make you unique.”