Bob & LBF in the Morning

Bob & LBF in the Morning

Bob & LBF in the Morning

It’s wedding season but things are changing.

I once used to dj/emcee at least 25 -35 weddings a year so I have seen a lot of wedding trends come and go. Back in the day most wedding receptions followed a very familiar pattern from the bridal party introductions, first dance, father and daughter dance, mother and son dance, cutting the cake etc.

If you had been to one wedding, you’ve probably seen them all (as they say)

When I first started in the wedding disc jockey business, I used to bring albums and 45 records to play and keep the party hopping with familiar tunes from Sinatra through Hip Hop. The reception had a very orderly line up that was to followed pretty much by the book.

Play “We Are Family” by the Pointer Sisters and you got the party started!

These days brides and grooms want anything but the same old tried and true or tired and not true weddings.  The days of the follow the routine are done. Originality is the name of the game and they don’t want to do the old traditions any longer. A survey of brides and grooms and newlyweds asking what a new rules for wedding receptions and what old rules can be broken. The list is pretty surprising and at the same time controversial.

What are the new wedding rules for 2023?

The survey respondents were asked to give their opinion on everything wedding related, from the time of season (spoiler alert, summer weddings are now a no-no) to who can wear white and who to invite. For instance, some think that you don’t need engagement parties any longer, your close friends should control the invite list not you, to the tradition of asking the bride and groom constantly to kiss for the crowd. They are over that!

Here are the 11 most mentioned New Wedding Rules for 2023!



  • Simplify the menu!

    If you need to make exceptions for the vegans in the crowd, just make the vegetarian option vegan and be done with it

    73rd Annual Golden Globes Menu Preview

    (Photo by Alberto E. Rodriguez/Getty Images)

  • If you travel from out of town, no gifts are necessary

    Meaning the folks who fly in and have to get hotels no longer need to give a gift because they gave up enough to be there, but maybe it’s still a good idea to bring a little something.
    Jet Blue Now Requires All Passengers To Wear Masks

  • Speeches must be pre-written

    The days of just “winging it” are over. Nobody likes a rambling speech that was not thought out enough, write it down and get to it.
    Wedding party

  • No kids!

    This is going to be tough for a lot of folks with young kids, so make sure if they do come, there is an exit strategy for taking them away if they are not thrilled to be there
    girl licking her fingers

  • It's okay to say "no"!

    You no longer need a big excuse as to why you can’t or don’t want to go, just send your regrets and move on

    Universal Pictures Presents The UK Premiere Of "NOPE"

    (Photo by Kate Green/Getty Images for Universal)

  • Never say Black Tie Optional

    If you want people to get dressed to the nines, just say so, and remove the “optional”.

    man in tux


  • It's entirely fine to deny "plus ones"

    If you’re counting heads and need to stop at a certain number it’s now okay to not offer a “plus one” option, so Fred from accounting might have to come solo, sorry Fred

    Met Gala 2023 - Karl Lagerfeld Red Carpet Looks

    (Photo by Theo Wargo/Getty Images for Karl Lagerfeld)

  • No one has to walk you down the aisle

    Of course if you want to be walked down the aisle that is still perfectly fine, but if you either don’t have an escort or don’t want one, go solo

    girl in long gown performing on stage

  • Dancing is mandatory

    Hey you hired a band or a dj for a good reason and a good penny, so make everybody hit the dance floor at least once. Get up and Shake Your Groove Thing!


    Newlywed african descent couple dancing wedding celebration

  • It's fine if someone else wears white!

    In most cases if purity is the reason the bride is wearing white then it’s probably okay if someone else does. after all, is the bride as pure as the driven snow?

    The 2023 Met Gala Celebrating "Karl Lagerfeld: A Line Of Beauty" - Arrivals

    (Photo by Mike Coppola/Getty Images)

  • No more "posed pictures"

    If you want your wedding album to look like it came from 1985 go ahead and pose away, but everyone loves the candid shots much more

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