Here’s 3 Worst First Date Blunders Singles Make

You would think with all of the singles dating sites and all of the so called "dating experts" that singles would be better at first dates and avoid these First Date Blunders, apparently not so much. People are still making the same mistakes on dates and unfortunately, might not get a second.

If you're in the dating world, you know how difficult it is to find someone who is worth your time and the effort you have to put in to make a budding relationship grow. For a lot of people, there are lot's of First Dates, but sadly not many following dates for various reasons.

A dating expert named  Dr. Terri Orbuch, PhD, who posts on a website called,  DatingAdvice.com. has offered some advice to singles who want to avoid those dreaded First Date Blunders. She has a ton of advice for singles, but we will focus on her Top 3 worst first date offenders that typically means that there will not be a second date. She shared her thoughts in a recent article in the Daily Mail.

1. Sharing too much, too soon,' she began. "On a first date, many daters make the mistake of sharing too much about themselves. This is too overwhelming for others on the first date. Instead, gradually disclose personal information.  You want to leave them interested and wanting more.' 

2. The second mistake was discussing an ex and your personal challenges. 'On first dates, people are attracted to daters who are positive, optimistic, and hopeful,' she explained. 'You don't want to share why previous relationships that didn't work and what isn't going well right now in your life. 'Stay hopeful and positive. Misery does not like company. 

3. The expert's third standout mistake was saying 'no' right away because there isn't instant chemistry or attraction. 'First dates can be challenging and nerve-wracking for many people, "Many daters assume that they should be "swept" off their feet or feel instant chemistry with someone on the first date. 

We hope that this advice is useful to you if you're struggling finding anything meaningful in the dating world. Of course, this won't help much if the person you're on a date with is absolutely clueless about these worst dating blunders. At least you will know that , "no, it's not just you".

Good luck!

Dating is nothing like it was a few decades ago. Heck, dating isn't anything like it was even just a few years ago, with all the different dating apps and online ways to find love. But, one thing hasn't changed: People still want to be appealing. They want to put their best foot forward in the dating world. So, what are some ways to be more attractive and appealing when you're on a date?

Actually, this list works even if you're not looking to date or are already are in a long-term relationship. Why not be as attractive as possible just for yourself? I'm not just talking about the physical, either. There's so much more to being an appealing person than looks alone. Dictionary.com has some definitions of attractive that show the broadness of this term. They say the word means "providing pleasure or delight, especially in appearance or manner" and add that words such as "pleasing, charming and alluring" all apply. They also use the word in the context of having "an attractive personality" or "arousing interest or engaging one's thought" and "consideration."

Of course, not all definitions are so broad. Some do come down to appearance and vanity. Vocabulary.com defines it as, "Anybody or anything that's attractive is visually pleasing or draws you in." They add that it also has to deal with attracting others, of course, and that, "for people, being attractive usually means you're beautiful or handsome enough to pull in the attention of others."

That said, in this list, I'm really focusing on ways to be an all-around attractive person. This is largely not a list about how to be physically prettier or more handsome. Sure, some of these tips are physical. But, for the most part, these are ways to be instantly attractive in the dating game and a more appealing person overall.

This one might seem odd. If you're trying to attract someone, why would you try to focus on them? But, it works. People like to feeling like the person their with is actually interested in them. It helps you actually be an attractive person if it isn't always about you and if you focus on your partner, date or friend.

Sure, you want to look good on your date. But, if you're wearing heels that are too high or pants that look cool but just don't fit, you might be uncomfortable, and that will make the other person uncomfortable. "The most important thing is that you feel comfortable in what you are wearing. If you are not comfortable, it will show in your body language and your date will be able to tell," says Houseofcoco.net.

Everyone always talks about confidence being attractive, and they're not wrong. Being confident in yourself is a very attractive quality. You don't need to be an egomaniac or anything, though. No bragging fests on a first date. Just, be confident in who you are and in the spectacular, rock star of a person that God created you to be.

This goes along with confidence. Just be you, because nobody else can be you. "As cheesy as it sounds, the most important thing you can do on a date is to look and act like your authentic self," notes Southerntide.com.

This is a tricky one. I'm not a big fan of perfume. But, it's good to smell nice on a date. That said, do not - I repeat, to not - overdue it. There's really no bigger turnoff than someone who smells like they just took a dive into a pool of really strong perfume or cologne. Less is more.

Show off those pearly whites! Something as simple as smiling can make you instantly appear attractive, because it implies that you're happy on both the outside and inside. No RBF, please. Smiling is contiguous, too, in the best possible way.

Your mom was right when she told you to sit up straight. "Slouching makes you look unconfident and bored, neither of which are attractive qualities," notes Houseofcoco.net. "Sit up straight and make sure your shoulders are back. It will make you look more confident and alert, two qualities that are sure to impress your date."

Dating and socializing is supposed to be fun. Humans were meant to be together in a community, and that's a good thing. So, just have fun on your date. Be playful. Laugh. Flirt. Wink. Okay, maybe don't wink. That's creepy. But, you can send a wink emoji. Simply have fun.