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Here’s Why You Shouldn’t Have Reservations About Staying In Valentine’s Day

I thought that I was really going to be on the ball this year for Valentine’s Day and make a reservation for 2 at a local restaurant that my wife…

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I thought that I was really going to be on the ball this year for Valentine's Day and make a reservation for 2 at a local restaurant that my wife has been wanting to go to. It was still late January when I confidently went to their website to lock down reservations. Well guess what? The only available times were 4:30 and 9:30.

Okay, I don't know about you, but those times were either ridiculously early or late. Who wants to get dressed up for a "romantic night out" at 4:30 in the afternoon? Sure, I don't mind eating early to beat the crowd, but at that time you will be home watching Wheel of Fortune before you loosen your belt from a great meal.

On the other hand, eating at 9:30 for some people is no big deal. If you don't mind being the last couple in the place after 11PM when the entire staff is looking at you to hurry up and slurp your coffee and dessert and get the heck out so that they can close down and go home.

Did you ever ask yourself what the staff at the restaurant does to celebrate Valentine's Day dinner? They have relationships just like we do, but they have to celebrate either before or after the 14th.

They also might just be tired of restaurants and decide to stay home and cook their own dinner or do take out. Is that so wrong?

Reservations about not making reservations?

A lot of us wouldn't mind having Valentine's dinner at home too. Let's face it, you will be paying roughly 3 times cost for that filet and mashed potatoes with broccoli . That's not to mention the price of a cocktail or a bottle of wine.

You can also pick up dessert at your favorite bakery and brew up some of your special coffee to cap the night off.

Of course, you need to present this idea to your wife or girlfriend and hope that they agree with you and don't mind staying in.

I would suggest that you still get dressed as though you were at going out to a nice but casual restaurant and not wear your favorite sweats. It is up to them to dress the way they want, but you should make it like it's a real date.

Add roses and nice smelling candles and a nice table setting and be your most charming self. Try to do the cooking alone, but your "date" will probably want to assist in the kitchen, which can be fun too.

If all else fails, just order in from her favorite restaurant, that will defeat the saving aspect, but at least you left it to the pros and there won't be any waitstaff giving you that look that says, 'wrap it up already"

True confession time, I made reservations for Valentine's Day dinner at my wife's other favorite restaurant at 6:00PM. Maybe next year will be the year I try it at home. Just need to convince my wife that I will not overcook her petite filet.

Common Valentine’s Day Mistakes to Avoid

There can be a lot of pressure and expectations around Valentine’s Day. A great Valentine's Day can be great for a relationship: if handled well, it can take a budding relationship to the next level. Or it can reignite a relationship that is years, or even decades, old.

On the other hand, a poorly executed Valentine's Day can have significant drawbacks, casting a shadow on a relationship. Failing to invest time in planning a meaningful day or falling short of expectations can lead to feelings of disappointment and resentment.

Who celebrates Valentine's Day?

Driver Research reveals that Valentine's Day is celebrated by as many as 52% of consumers. Approximately 224 million roses are grown exclusively for the holiday, and about 3 out of every 10 Americans end up accumulating credit card debt due to their Valentine's Day spending.

Valentine's Day Mistakes

Some people set unrealistic expectations for Valentine’s Day, setting themselves up for potential disappointment. But it's important to realize the day is about celebrating love, not showing off.

Another common pitfall is assuming their partners can read their minds about what they want on Valentine’s Day. It’s better to be clear about your wishes to avoid disappointments.

While gifts are always appreciated, it's important to remember that the value lies in the thought and effort behind the gift, not the price tag. Social media can exacerbate this pressure, with people flaunting extravagant gifts and experiences. Every relationship is unique, and there's no need to compare your Valentine’s Day with others.

Additionally, love shouldn't be confined to a single day a year. Consistently expressing love and appreciation throughout the year can alleviate stress associated with Valentine’s Day. Simple, spontaneous gestures, such as leaving a heartfelt note or a surprise gift, can go a long way in making someone feel loved and appreciated.

If you've had a not-so-great Valentine’s Day, learn from it and avoid these common mistakes next time. Take a look at some of the common Valentine’s Day mistakes to steer clear of for a smoother and more enjoyable celebration.

Buying a last minute gift

Having no plans, even with good intentions, can make you seem inconsiderate and unmotivated. While it's tempting to resort to last-minute convenience-store flowers or a generic box of chocolates, your partner likely knows you're more creative. Avoid scrambling to find the perfect last-minute Valentine's Day gifts. Instead, have a plan in place, making your partner feel valued with the thought you put into it ahead of time.

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Not making reservations

Valentine's Day is a peak time for restaurants, spas, and getaways, so avoid waiting until the eleventh hour to snag your spot. Many places fill up weeks or even months before the big day. According to Taste of Home, it's wise to plan and secure a reservation five to six weeks in advance. Mark it on your calendar to avoid any slip-ups. If you realize you forgot, try calling around to see if any restaurants have last-minute openings, or opt for a cozy romantic dinner at home.

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Not discussing a budget

Surprises are great, but when you gift your partner chocolate and roses and they surprise you with a trip to Hawaii or a new car, it can be a bit awkward. Although it's uncommon to have such a huge difference in gift budgets, having a quick chat before Valentine's Day can be beneficial. Set some guidelines. Maybe agree on a small budget, like under $20, or consider pooling funds for a more extravagant joint experience.

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Ignoring preferences

People often make the mistake of organizing Valentine's Day based on their preferences rather than considering what their partner likes. Avoid overlooking your partner's wishes or desires for the day. If your significant other prefers a cozy night at home over a fancy dinner, make sure your plans align with their preferences.

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Skipping it all together

Even if you're not a big fan of Valentine's Day, your partner might be a total romantic, so don't act like it's just any regular day. You don't have to pull off a huge, fancy gesture every time, but completely ignoring it can be hurtful. Making a little effort shows you care. Complaining about the day doesn't help either. Some people see Valentine’s Day as a bit commercial, but pointing that out or making excuses to ignore it might disappoint your partner. Griping about putting effort into the day can quickly spoil anything special you decide to do for them.

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Bob is a native New Englander, growing up (sorta) in Maine where his love for radio started at a young age. While in high school he hosted radio shows on a local radio station, and he has never looked back. Bob joined the US Navy and served onboard the Sixth Fleet Flagship as a radio and TV host. After serving for 3 years, it was off to Emerson College in Boston. Bob hosted shows in Boston on WMEX, WVBF and WSSH in the 80’s and 90’s before heading to radio stations in Raleigh, NC, Manchester, NH, and New York City. Bob has been married for almost 25 years to Carolyn, a Woburn gal and they have 3 daughters, Nicole, Taylor, and Bridget. Bob and Carolyn are proud first-time grandparents to baby Caroline, who they plan to spoil every chance they get! “I started my career in New England and could not be happier to come back to Boston where I can root for all the Boston sports teams and eat lots of lobster rolls and clam chowder (okay not lots)… It is an honor to host the WROR morning show with LBF and wake up the World’s Greatest City!” Bob writes about recipes and restaurants, pop culture and trending topics.