Divorce Lawyers Tell Couples Beware Of January

Divorce lawyers say beware of January!  Not because of your hard to stick to New Year’s resolutions. No this is something that married people have to worry about if your relationship is shaky.

Don't freak out, but January is sometimes called "Divorce Month," because it's when divorce lawyers see a big uptick in clients.  There's about a 25% spike in the number of people looking for divorce advice this month . . . possibly because they were waiting to get through the holidays.

Is it because couples are coming down from the holidays? After the highs of gift giving and receiving? Perhaps the holidays were a big let down and for some it was the last straw.

That doesn't mean they necessarily file for divorce now, though.  A lot of people just put feelers out, and wait until the spring to file. With that in mind, here are three red flags you might want to be aware of . . .

1.  Their spending habits change.  Lawyers do something called a "spousal support analysis" to figure out alimony.  Especially if one person brings in most of the money. If honey buns is doing the math to figure out what they can expect financially from you, that’s a bad sign.

If their client NEEDS support, they might tell them to go out and shop more, so it'll look like that's the lifestyle they've become accustomed to.  Or if their client wants to AVOID paying alimony, they might tell them to stop spending so much.

2.  Makeovers, or suddenly hitting the gym a lot more.  It can be a sign of infidelity, or getting ready to jump back into the dating pool.

But be careful with that one, because it might just be a New Year's resolution thing.  Only be suspicious if there are other red flags, like lying or a lot of late nights at work.

3.  They've stopped nagging you.  If they used to do it a lot but stopped, it might be a sign they've started to give up on the relationship.

(New York Post)

If you've been married or a committed relationship where you sleep in the same bed, you can likely relate to this. You need your sleep! Think about it. Sleep is such a private thing. It's separate from a couple's much needed cuddling time, and of course intimate time. It's something we are born doing alone. So, why such controversary regarding the trending topic of "sleep divorce?"

Sleep divorce is when you and your partner decide that separate beds, and in some cases, separate rooms are necessary for your mental and physical health. Snoring, talking in your sleep, and restless sleep are enough to drive you or your partner crazy in bed. You can totally love each other and sill desire your personal sleep space, in order to get a good night's sleep.

Dr. Shelby Harris, a psychologist specializing in behavioral sleep medicine, told Newsweek, "When your partner negatively impacts your sleep, it can stir up resentment and unhappiness that trickles into your day-to-day life. If you can improve this issue, it can lead to a closer and more bonded relationship." She doesn't like the term "sleep divorce" because as she says, "it can have a very negative and shameful connotation. Sleeping separately is a normal, common, and healthy solution for a lot of couples out there who aren't getting the sleep they need."

Many famous couples have decided that sleeping separately is best for their relationship.Hey, it may even spice things up for you, as the saying goes, "absence makes the heart grow fonder." It's worth a shot. And you can even try scheduling "date nights" in bed. Below is a list, from The List, of some famous couples who have publicly shared their "sleep divorces."

Sarah and Matthew took their sleep separation a step further. They chose separate beds in separate homes! According to a 2016 Radar Online report, this famous couple had decided to try a technique called "conscious coupling," which involved living in adjoining New York City townhouses.

Kevin Jonas and his wife, Danielle, sleep in separate beds because of his snoring. Married since 2009, this celeb couple started sleeping in separate beds early on.

Tim Burton and Helena Bonhan Carter split in 2014, after 13 years of marriage. When they were together they admitted to sleepin in separate beds and in adjoining homes. Perhaps they wanted more room for their wardrobe?

According to The List, Gwyneth Paltrow and Brad Falchuk found it easier to sleep in separate beds. Her lifestyle brand website, Goop, the award winning actress explores experimental living techniques and products. When she married TV producer Brad Falchuk in 2018, "she decided to hop aboard the solo sleeping trend," as the article explained.

The List says, "Victoria and David Beckham sleep in separate beds in their his and her wings. Hey, have wings, will fly, as the saying goes.

If you've ever visited one of the mansions in Newport, you likely noticed the home owners, king and queen of their castle, had separate bedrooms. That's how royality did it. Case in point, Queen Elizabeth II and Prince Philip reportedly always slept in separate beds.

Donald and Melania Trump sleep in separate beds and different rooms, according to The List.

It was a very public and often tumultuous "Love Story" for Ryan O'Neal and Farrah Fawcett, when when they were together they reportedly made their relationship work by sleeping in separate beds.

Kaley Cuoco and Karl Cook lived apart for a year after marrying in 2018 and slept in separate beds. The Big Bang Theory star and her equestrian husband actually lived in different houses to star their marriage, while they built their dream home together. She said, "We love it, so I don't know why people have such an issue."

One of Hollywood's most famous couples (now uncoupled) Angelia Jolie and Brad Pitt slept in separate beds while married. A former body guard spilled the beans that "Brangelina" slept separately.

Gillian Anderson and Peter Morgan said they have a great relationship because they sleep in separate beds. Gillian told The Times that because she and film director Peter Morgan started dating when they were older, they brought a maturity to the relationship. She said, "There is a new creativity nowadays to what a relationship should look like. If we did [live together], that would be the end of us." (

Sounds like separate homes too, or at least rooms.)

Carson Daly and his wife Siri sleep in separate beds. The TV host and personality jokingly told TODAY, "I got sleep-divorced in September. We cited irreconcilable sleeping." He has a condition called sleep apnea.